Today, as I sit back and relax for a minute with all of the hubbub of the holidays upon us my thoughts turn to what I am grateful for experiencing this year. And I realize that of all the lessons of 2012 (and there were many), learning how to really love my husband unconditionally was probably the most profound lesson of the year. When I finally just accepted him for who and how he is, I experienced a greater depth of love from him than I could have imagined. It was in that moment, when I gave up the control and just accepted that I realized that our life together is truly special. I also learned what it means to really love someone with all of their perceived strengths and weaknesses.
It’s so easy to apply our judgments of how we think people should act, love, handle life, etc. but in really loving someone, we learn to stop judging them and just experience them. It also goes back to loving and forgiving ourselves. If we are not loving to ourselves and forgiving of our own judgments than how can we truly love another? I recently read a blog posted by Savannah and thought this article might benefit you as well. From that message, I took away the reminder that I’m creating my life and that I have the power within to change how people treat me by forgiving that part of myself that needed to create that experience. I’m here to fulfill a greater purpose and to learn specific lessons. By accepting that everything happens to me as it was meant to with the goal of helping me fulfill my greater purpose, I find it very difficult to hold onto the old pains and the old ways. By allowing myself to release those pains and ways that no longer serve me, I allow myself to move forward and learn about the next lesson. I also prepare myself to move towards living a life of abundance and joy. The greatest gift of all, I can now allow myself to love and receive love in return.
I know this is a time of year where spending time with our families can create added stress in our lives. In sharing with you I hope that you can take a moment of silence to forgive and accept yourself and your difficult family members so that you can truly enjoy what the Christmas season really means. Love.
Go in love and light.